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The Tin Man July 30, 2013 at 9:34 pm

To put it simply: I want to be someone I am proud of. Someone who has found a healthy balance of work, health, play, and love (both romantic and platonic).

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Kate Marolt July 30, 2013 at 9:41 pm

Love this! How would that person think and act? In what ways can you start to implement that, bits at a time? You rock, friend!

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Nash Ryker August 4, 2013 at 12:48 am

Hey Kate, this is a wonderful method for releasing tension and pressure when we’re trying to plan out our goals and mission. I dream to use the power of technology to facilitate positive transformation and purposeful living in the lives of 1Million+ people around the world through video, webinars, etc.

Thanks so much for sharing!

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Kate Marolt August 4, 2013 at 1:05 am

Thank you Nash! It has definitely helped me out! :)
That is a beautiful dream- please let me know how I can help make it a reality! Rock on!

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PaulasWork... August 4, 2013 at 2:22 pm

Yep, that’s it totally! Thinking WAY ahead an not focusing on that one thing that will move us forward. I get stuck all the time. This is totally what I needed to read today. It’s good to know that I am not alone in this. At the end of the day its the pressure we put on ourselves isnt it. No more!. Thank you for this :)

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Kate Marolt August 5, 2013 at 8:39 pm

You are definitely not alone Paula! And you definitely touched on one of life’s secrets.. we put far more pressure on ourselves than anyone else! Enjoy the release of that pressure and enjoy your dreams! They are happening for you!

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Brooklyn August 5, 2013 at 3:21 am

I love this exercise!

Even as I was reading it I was visualizing my own dreams. Your dreams, by the way, are absolutely lovely. I can see how using this exercise takes you out of freak-out mode and into being centered and methodical. I think this method helps you realize that it is ok to not have all the answers and that sometimes it’s best to just step back and be ok with that.

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Kate Marolt August 5, 2013 at 8:38 pm

Exactly Brooklyn! Whenever I try and figure out all the answers, I totally freak out. Glad to get you visualizing!! :)

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Michaela Cristallo August 5, 2013 at 9:55 am

I love this technique Kate! I too have a lot of big dreams and it can feel incredibly overwhelming.

The person living all my dreams would be dreaming up new ways to connect with her tribe of hundreds of thousands of creative people from around the world and striving to create bigger and better ways to help them live their dreams.

Thank you for your inspiring words Kate :)

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Kate Marolt August 5, 2013 at 8:37 pm

Awesome Michaela! I love that hundreds of thousands of people are out there just waiting to be inspired by you. Thanks for the work you do!

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Natalie Sisson August 7, 2013 at 5:54 am

Kate I love the purpose of this blog: This blog is a resource to help creators get strong and healthy in all areas of their lives, and to build confidence and trust in the present moment, so they can worry less, quit stressin’ and play a whole lot more!

And I am sure this next 30 days will prove an awesome way for you to play a bigger game – you don’t need permission you just need your own acceptance. Let’s make it happen!

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Kate Marolt August 7, 2013 at 5:34 pm

Thanks Natalie! This challenge came at the perfect time- I’m so ready!! :) And excited to read your book!

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Christina Buiza August 7, 2013 at 7:14 am

Kate, I love that you’re doing the 30 Day Blog Challenge! Similar to you, I’ve always loved blogging, and find it as one of the best ways to express ourselves and help people. I’ve yet to write my entry for Day 1, and will have to catch up.

Looking forward to following you along on the challenge! Don’t be too stressed about missing a day or two. Go at your own phase. The purpose, after all, is about learning about yourself!

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Kate Marolt August 7, 2013 at 5:35 pm

Yeay Christina glad you are doing it too! Great point too- it’s all about learning and exploring.

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StaceyMBrown August 7, 2013 at 8:43 am

Hi Kate!
I definitely believe in not getting too caught up and overwhelmed by the ‘how’, the ‘what’ & the ‘why’ are so much more important. Putting too much attachment on how we have to go about achieving something prevents the Universe from just allowing it to happen with ease.

If I was the person already living my dreams, the dream I would have would be to create an International Day of Celebrating Diversity, where major cities across the world would hold a festival showcasing independent artists in music, fashion, art, technology & all sorts of fun things.

Great post – thank you!!

Stacey

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Kate Marolt August 7, 2013 at 5:33 pm

Stacey I love that dream!! What can you do now to start taking steps to get there? Seriously so fantastic :)

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Natalie Sisson August 7, 2013 at 9:08 pm

Love this sooo much. Beautifully written and so many inspiring nuggets of wisdom here Kate

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Kate Marolt August 7, 2013 at 10:04 pm

Thank you Natalie! All lessons I had to learn the hard way :)

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Christen August 8, 2013 at 10:34 am

I love this post. Especially the Doctor Who reference! Your writing is incredibly motivational and contagious, I feel ready to go start my day. Perfectionism is a big sticking point for me and I hadn’t even realized it until this year. I didn’t even feel good enough to be a perfectionist! How crazy is that?

“Be dedicated to your cause. Play with all the ways you can bring it more fully into the world. Be serious about what you do- just not necessarily how you do it!”

I’m putting this quote up on my wall today – such a great lesson.

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Kate Marolt August 8, 2013 at 12:45 pm

“I didn’t even feel good enough to be a perfectionist” – wow, that hit something in me– definitely had that feeling before. My former boss calls herself a ‘recovering perfectionist’ and I just love that. It’s how I feel most days! Thanks for coming by Christen!! (and yay Doctor Who!!!)

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Amanda Sue August 8, 2013 at 2:35 pm

Oh my gosh! Flying first class is a dream. :D I’m only 5’1″ and those seats are too small in economy. I flew to Korea, and wowzers…14 hours is too long to be cramped in econo-class.

I love the idea of being booked a year out, too. :)

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Kate Marolt August 8, 2013 at 2:57 pm

Right? Transatlantic flights (really, all flights) do terrible things to my neck and my hips!! First class style- way more fun.

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Renee Beauvais August 9, 2013 at 4:42 am

What a great visualization! My future self that has accomplished her dreams, dreams of having a night off!

It’s a great practice to put you in the flow of your dream and helps you “own” it. Thanks!

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Kate Marolt August 9, 2013 at 3:23 pm

Thank you Renee! My challenge to you is to take a night off to get a taste for that dream being realized!!! :)

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Austin McConnell August 9, 2013 at 12:43 pm

Great vision, Kate! Sounds like you have it all down. Or at least where you want to go.

I’m an avid fantasy reader, myself! What are some of your favorite “books of magic and adventure” to get lost in? :-)

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Kate Marolt August 9, 2013 at 3:26 pm

Thank you Austin!! It gets more refined every day :)

Oh man… I read so many! I actually completed the Wheel of Time series recently, that only took how many years?, I love Neil Gaiman, Tamora Pierce, honestly haven’t been reading a lot of fiction lately (travesty) but anything with wizards, epic quests between good and evil, badass females… now taking recommendations!!

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Austin McConnell August 10, 2013 at 1:14 am

I love the Wheel of Time series! Ha, yeppers. It’s a big commitment, that’s for sure. Neil Gaiman is good too.

Hmm… Have you read the Eli Monpress series by Rachel Aaron? It’s really good! The first book is The Spirit Thief.

Other than that… The Name of The Wind by Patrick Rothfuss! But beware, only 2 out of 3 books have been released yet! Still totally worth the agonizing wait.

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Kate Marolt August 10, 2013 at 6:27 pm

Awesome!!! Thank you for those. I’ll have to start the Rachel Aaron books next!!

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Mary Helen August 9, 2013 at 2:01 pm

Kate, lovely post. I’m writing your line “freedom is a mindset and adventure is everywhere” in my journal. Wishing you amazing days of both.

A sister in the 30 day challenge.

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Kate Marolt August 9, 2013 at 3:24 pm

Ohhhh awesome Mary! So happy that resonated with you. The ‘theme’ of my vision board this year is ‘Adventure is Everywhere’. Thus far it’s proving true!! Thanks for stopping by :)

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Sophia August 9, 2013 at 4:23 pm

Hello Kate,

It was nice to read your description of what freedom is and adventure. You were vivid with what you want to be involved in, and not – like the technical stuff. Like what someone who once introduced themselves to me at a networking event once said, “do only what you can do”. So it is therefore nice to do the stuff that we enjoy doing. I liked what you also said about “trust”, sometimes we need to have this with us, even if we may be doubting the outcome. It’s funny how a couple of days ago I did a VLOG on success. How each thing we do is part of the learning and here it is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JsJSDqxYKlA. Talk about synchronicity :)

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Kate Marolt August 10, 2013 at 6:28 pm

-Do only what you can do-
Love that. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views!

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Leigh August 9, 2013 at 7:24 pm

Kate – this is beautiful, thoughtful, and certainly resonates with me today.

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Kate Marolt August 9, 2013 at 7:33 pm

Leigh, thank you so much! Glad you found connection in the message.

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Katie McConnell August 10, 2013 at 1:12 am

Hi, Kate! …this question should actually belong on your “Work With Me” page but there was nowhere to comment, so… I’m starting my personal trainer certification and a job training/wellness coaching at a YMCA until I get my feet under me, and I was wondering. How do you promote healthiness (physical, mental, emotional aka not hating your body and wanting to look like a supermodel) while helping someone to set goals for themselves? How do you guide them away from kind of that self-deprecating view of themselves and help them to love their bodies because they’re strong, beautiful, and theirs? …short of telling them they need therapy lol. Thanks!
~Katie

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Kate Marolt August 13, 2013 at 9:52 pm

That’s great Katie! Honestly those are pretty in depth questions- a lot of it for me comes from living by example and exploring all aspects of health within myself. It doesn’t happen overnight, yet it does happen! When you are training, be very deliberate about the language you use and the way you respond to beliefs they have about themselves. Validate them by saying they look strong or vibrant rather than skinny or lean. That’s just my take on it though- lots of different possibilities. The best advice I have is honestly to speak from the heart and do what feels right for you. Hope that helps!

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Iris Barzen August 12, 2013 at 11:41 am

I so agree with the part about hard work and sacrifice. It’s so fascinating how guilty we can feel for wanting things to be easy, and how little trust we have when things turn out to be less difficult than we thought.

Excited to read more of your stuff! :)

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Kate Marolt August 12, 2013 at 6:32 pm

Right! All day every day– for years when things would go easy I would wonder what I did wrong, and when things were ridiculously difficult, I assumed that was normal. Thanks for commenting!

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Iris Barzen August 12, 2013 at 11:47 am

Thanks so much for sharing, Kate. Now I get why you do handstands every time I see you. Another example of how we never know the story of another person, and what such a tiny thing as daily handstands can mean to them.

I freaking love the part where you talk about deciding what type of person you want to be, and then acting in alignment with that vision even if it’s scary. Thanks. That’s totally where I’m at right now.

Lots of love!

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Kate Marolt August 12, 2013 at 6:35 pm

haha yeah! It’s a great reminder to me, especially with my students and clients, that I never know where they are coming from in any given moment, and allows me the space to honor wherever they are in their journey.

You may not see it, but in so many ways you already are the person you want to be- I’m so excited to see you believe it more and more every day! :)

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Kristy August 12, 2013 at 1:39 pm

Lovely post Kate. I especially loved your comment “don’t worry about HOW it’s all going to work out- just take the steps you can think of and be ready for the unexpected”. Great advice for anyone and any cause.

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Kate Marolt August 12, 2013 at 6:35 pm

Thank you Kristy! It has freed up so much in my life when I remember to release the how’s :)

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christen bakken August 12, 2013 at 6:38 pm

Kate,
I think it would be fair to say that when we first walked into each others lives, I was your teacher, but I am so proud and honored to say that today, you are my teacher as well. I love to hear about your journey and so inspired by the way you move forward while still acknowledging all that is “real” and honest about this process. I am so excited to continue to learn from you as you step more fully into who you are. Shine bright my friend.

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Kate Marolt August 12, 2013 at 6:50 pm

Aww Christen- making me tear up over here! You are one of the most fun and inspiring people I have ever known- your honesty, courage, and vulnerability are admirable, and I appreciate so so much everything you have given me and your support through all things. Thank you for being in my life.

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Tin Man August 14, 2013 at 3:52 am

Congratulations on the upcoming move! Way to embrace something that can be very scary on the surface.

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Kate Marolt August 14, 2013 at 5:31 pm

Thank you! A little scary, yeah, but exciting as well :)

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Susan August 13, 2013 at 3:16 am

It’s certainly true that I expect anything worthwhile to be difficult. And in retrospect, my life has had its share of difficulties and hardships. But in truth, most of the difficulty has been caused by my own outlook on things and the expectation that life is tough. I am learning to relax and go with the flow more, and life isn’t nearly as hard anymore. So thanks for the great reminder, Kate!

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Kate Marolt August 13, 2013 at 9:47 pm

Susan thank you so much for sharing this. It’s funny how when we expect things to be difficult, they are, thus reaffirming what we believe, and bringing more of the same. Good for you for flowing and relaxing- it can almost feel sinful when we are so used to go, go, go all the time, yet I’ve found it’s the absolute BEST thing. Thanks again!

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Khrstle August 13, 2013 at 2:07 pm

This is exactly what I want in my life! To be able to work from anywhere in the world!! What a blessing that will one day be =)! Thank you for the motivation to keep on striving for my dream of location independence!

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Kate Marolt August 13, 2013 at 9:45 pm

Hell yeah Khrystle! You’ll get there, no question.

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Justin Harmon August 13, 2013 at 3:00 pm

Definitely couldn’t agree more. When your “work” is in alignment with who you are as you say, it’s no longer as much of a struggle. I like to think of the projects I’m working on to bring to the world as not work at all, but just another fun activity to do with my time. Love that you’re doing the the 30 day challenge. I tried to start but…yeah no excuses. Just finished up a collaboration with Natalie actually. Shes great! Thanks for sharing Kate

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Kate Marolt August 13, 2013 at 9:45 pm

Thanks Justin! What a great point of view as well- projects as fun activities! Being in alignment and loving what you do allows us to actually have FUN working and creating- and you are such a great example of that!

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Jo August 13, 2013 at 5:05 pm

I totally agree with you! When I quit my job recently and started my app business with my brother, all of a sudden, work wasn’t hard and a struggle any more… quite revealing! Now I know it is possible – everyone should find out – this feeling creates a lot of happiness :-) Thanks for the great post!

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Kate Marolt August 13, 2013 at 9:44 pm

Right! It’s amazing when work no longer equals struggle. So glad you were able to find that Jo!

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Wendy August 14, 2013 at 1:57 am

I struggle with the last point “having faith that wherever you go, you will thrive”. I worry too much and am always anxious about the future. Money, relationships, competence… it has a lot to do with my history but I’m trying to grow from it and not be afraid. It would be very liberating to not be afraid of the future and to just have confidence that I will thrive.

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Kate Marolt August 14, 2013 at 5:34 pm

Wendy, thank you for sharing this. If you don’t mind my asking, what steps are you taking to shift that mindset? I’ve definitely been in a place of constant worry and anxiety… it can be exhausting. Let me know if I can help you out!

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Daisy August 14, 2013 at 4:19 am

Wonderful post Kate! “Being clear on your mission” is SO important and one thing that gets lots with the chatter of the tasks you need to do. I like that it’s the first thing you’ve listed.

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Kate Marolt August 14, 2013 at 5:30 pm

Thank you Daisy! It’s definitely what kept be stuck for a long time- not being clear, that is. Definitely the most important!

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Kate Marolt August 14, 2013 at 5:31 pm

Thank you Daisy! Lack of clarity kept me stuck for so long… it definitely became the most important thing.

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Paul August 14, 2013 at 5:38 am

Hey Kate. You hit on a very important subject here so thank you for sharing this with us. I totally agree with you. When we are working on our own art (projects that we pursue through our heart’s intentions) we feel alive. There are certainly shifts we can all take in order to ensure we allow our work to become more simplified and for certain planning ahead is always going to be a skill which compliments this whether we are working for others or on our own terms. Struggle in my view is normally created by choice. Because there are always choices in life to allow ourselves to pursue what we believe in or not. Nice one Kate and keep up the inspiring work :)

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Kate Marolt August 14, 2013 at 5:29 pm

Exactly, Paul. It’s that ‘aliveness’ that I’m looking for and I’m so glad you touched upon that. Thank you for coming by!

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Abby August 14, 2013 at 5:24 pm

This is brilliantly written and completely relevant- to anyone’s life! Thanks Kate!

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Kate Marolt August 14, 2013 at 5:28 pm

Thank you Abby!!!

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Brooklyn August 15, 2013 at 3:07 am

I am fascinated by this need to be free that I see in myself and others like you Kate.

You brought back some powerful memories of childhood with the intro to this article. I remember my Mom telling me when I was a small child that no matter what my dream was that I should be the “best darn what-ever it was” I could be.

But as I grew into an adult, the expectations change. Now I am always looked at as someone who seems flaky because I just can’t settle on one thing. I realize now that having a freedom business, is the only path for me.

To be able to choose how I spend my days, and focus on the projects and interests that I am truly passionate about is my “Best Darn What-Ever it IS”

It is VERY empowering to finally embrace this about myself.

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Kristy August 15, 2013 at 10:23 am

Great article Kate! I saw her launch video a while back – definitely checking her out again, thanks. So many talented friends are still caged (happy to be free – and playful).

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Kate Marolt August 15, 2013 at 1:59 pm

Thank you Kristy! She is amazing. I’m happy you are free and playful as well!! :)

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Christy Primmer August 15, 2013 at 7:36 pm

Amazing blog post, Kate ! I actually have to agree with you on two things! First, point #3 is super true and I am glad you put it into words-/-we need to be willing to invest!
Second, Rebecca Tracey is the bomb. She’s brilliant, kind and full of knowledge. I’ve purchased a couple biz programs from her and will purchase more in the near future!
So glad I’ve discovered you and what great work you’re doing!!

Cheers,
Christy

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Kate Marolt August 15, 2013 at 9:27 pm

Thank you Christy! Yes it’s so true- I’ve always made back more money than I invest, and until I invest I stay stuck where I am. It’s kind of the ‘gotta spend money to make money’ mentality, but not in the sense of ‘go into loads of debt for a possible return’, more of the ‘how can I make more money a whole lot more quickly’ variety!

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Michaela Cristallo August 16, 2013 at 6:13 am

Wonderful post Kate, I agree there is such a prevalent mindset out there that you NEED to struggle to make it. I think this actually keeps many of us doing work we don’t enjoy because we feel that is just how it’s meant to be.

I absolutely love your mindset here – ‘When you are on FIRE with your mission, PUMPED UP about what you have to offer, and IN TUNE with the flow of your energy and your brilliance, there is a major shift in the way you view work’. This is what it’s all about to me! When you do what you love and believe in things just flow and there doesn’t need to be that eternal struggle :)

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Michael Knouse August 16, 2013 at 2:53 pm

Kate – I love your perspective here. I think it’s so important to question ‘old’ and outdated beliefs that may have been handed down from previous generations. Who says that life has to be such a struggle? Personally, I want life to be filled with the joy of knowing that I am living at my edge and loving every moment of my life. I want what I do to be a reflection of what I’m most excited about.

It’s so exciting to be alive right now because so many things are possible. I am purposely creating my business and life to be location independent. And it feels AMAZING! And it’s totally possible with some shifts in lifestyle and mindset.

Thanks for the great energy that you are putting out to the world on this subject. I look forward to reading more.

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Kate Marolt August 18, 2013 at 2:00 am

Thank you Michael! Exactly- I want that as well!! You can have all of those things and more :)

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PaulasWork... August 17, 2013 at 1:16 pm

I am with Brooklyn on this one, I am the ‘flaky’ one in my family, friends as I’ve never been able to settle into one job. I know that my mission and purpose is to build my own life and freedom business and help other’s to live their life the same way. Why not eh? We are all connected in some way, we should all help each other to get there. Love this piece as I LOVE it when I am doing something I love to do and being free to do that is my ultimate goal – thanks for sharing. Life is not hard, its your response to it that is the important bit. Thanks :)
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Jesicka Labud August 18, 2013 at 5:18 am

Kate, I totally get this article because I grew up with Asian parents. “You need to work hard and sacrifice” is their motto and they lived it. They toiled when they immigrated to New York, and they sacrificed everything for us. And I grew up watching them, and thinking that my life was going to have to be ‘so hard’ as well. Then, when I had my share of epiphanies, and realized this wasn’t the case… well, they were upset with me. When I quit my well-paid, stable government job my parents said I was crazy. “Why do you need so much from life?” They would ask? If I told them it was hard to go to a job I hated every day, they would respond, life is hard- working is SUPPOSED to be hard every day.. We all know that it is not true! When you do what you love, you are playing, not working… and the muses are with you. Stay free! Thanks for the great article.

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Kate Marolt August 18, 2013 at 10:34 pm

Jesicka, yes, that is exactly it. It can be tough when the people who love us and want us to be healthy and happy have a completely different understanding of the world and how it works- good for you for seeking out what makes you happy! Asking more from life is totally encouraged around here! Thank you for stopping by :)

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Ana Elisa Miranda August 19, 2013 at 8:34 am

Hi Kate! I like your view, we shouldn’t be ashamed to say we love and desire money, as it’s a means to give us other things we want :) Good luck with your business, I can’t wait to read your next steps!

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Kate Marolt August 24, 2013 at 9:35 pm

Thank you Ana Elisa!! Appreciate you stopping by… next steps have been a little slow but they are coming! :)

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Katherine Harms August 20, 2013 at 5:03 pm

If I ever grow up, I’ll answer your question! :)

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Susan August 21, 2013 at 3:53 am

Great post! When I was a kid, I wanted to be a doctor when I grew up. That desire took an unexpected turn after graduating from college with great pre-med credentials. That is when I realized that I had a strong calling to the ministry, which I loved. The one thing I never though I would be is disabled, though, and yet I am. And breaking all molds for churches and starting a church for people with disabilities, because things are rough for in churches for people who have disabilities, but don’t look like it. Keep on dreaming, everyone!
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Kate Marolt August 24, 2013 at 9:38 pm

That’s fascinating Susan- an unexpected turn, yes, but what I love about this is you always desired to be a healer. Whether it is being a doctor or minister, easing people’s pain and creating a world where everyone is welcome– those are both so similar at the core! Love it.

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Michael Knouse August 21, 2013 at 11:37 pm

Loved the example of the 8 year old! He wanted to explore, have an adventure, and see new places, even though he knew it would be full of twists and turns. It’s almost as if he was viewing the uncertainty as part of the adventure. I wonder if we would all be a little happier if we started viewing the uncertainty of life as part of the adventure?
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Kate Marolt August 24, 2013 at 9:39 pm

Agree!! Being an explorer meant some element of danger, and if we embrace that a little more as a whole in society, I think we will all be much happier :)

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Khrstle August 22, 2013 at 5:50 pm

I love this “NOBODY can be better at being YOU than you.” So true! No one else can walk in my shoes. Great inspiring post! I really like how you bring it back to when I was a kid with the exercise.

When I was a kid my dreams changed with where I was in life. I always decided I never wanted to have one career and be stuck doing the same thing forever. I wanted to be a baker, I wanted to have my own recording studio attached to my own record label. In high school I knew I wanted to be an entrepreneur. Now, I am working part time and trying to make that dream come true. To work for myself and be location independent is the ultimate goal! It is up to me to make it happen.
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Kate Marolt August 24, 2013 at 9:40 pm

That’s awesome- you’ve known for so long you are going to do a little bit of everything! Location independence is on its way!

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Jo August 22, 2013 at 5:58 pm

Great post! I only have one confession to make: I cannot remember what I wanted to be when I was a kid… seriously… it makes me sad sometimes because I would love to go back to that thought and use it now in the present… anyway, I loved problem solving when I was a kid (puzzles, riddles, …) and problem solving is a big part of my new found freedom, so I guess I’m doing alright :-)
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Kate Marolt August 24, 2013 at 9:41 pm

At WDS this year, Gretchen Rubin said that if you want to know what makes you happy, do the things you were doing when you were 10 years old. I’d say you are definitely doing it right!! :D

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Justin Harmon August 24, 2013 at 4:09 am

When I was a kid I wanted to be a baseball player for the St. Louis Cardinals or a Famous Musician. Now, well baseballs out cause 1) I’m not very good and 2) I’m over my prime. Being a famous musician could work, but I’m not really into that dream anymore. These days, I just want to help people start following their own freedoms, cause I see the potential of a world full of people awake and ready to take action. Love the message Kate!
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Kate Marolt August 24, 2013 at 9:43 pm

haha love that! I also wanted to be a baseball player. You may not end up on a professional sports team or shredding a guitar on stage, but there’s still major opportunity to be a well-known influencer and role model. So great!!

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Michaela Cristallo August 24, 2013 at 4:35 am

I love the idea of learning from kids to dream big! A few years ago my life certainly wasn’t living up to the proportion of kid like big dreams but I’m happy to say it now is!

It’s taken a lot of life changes and choosing myself first – listening to my voice, my passions and doing things that light me up instead of just doing things that make money or seem sensible! I’ve studied new things, met new people and taken some big steps like starting my own fashion label and building a website to connect creative people around the world. I’m so happy I have though!!
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Kate Marolt August 24, 2013 at 9:44 pm

Yeay Michaela! That’s freaking great. Way to do something about it and get out there :)

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Amy Scott August 24, 2013 at 5:49 am

I had lots of different ideas over the years about what I wanted to be when I grew up, but several of them did indeed fall by the wayside as that darn “practical” stuff got in the way.

I’ve fancied myself a writer pretty much my whole life, yet once I finished college and worked in book publishing, and saw how hard it was to get published (and how little money you’d make), I kind of gave up the dream. (Luckily now there are other options, like self-publishing!)

I also wanted to be a professional ballet dancer, but when I reached high school and realized I’d have to give up any semblance of a social life in order to get anywhere in the dance world, I gave it up. Shows where my priorities were, I guess! :)
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Kate Marolt August 24, 2013 at 9:45 pm

So true about the social life thing. Love that you are still very much in a creative and connecting way of life- I would certainly call you a writer, even if it’s not yet in the realm of traditional publishing!

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Amy Scott August 31, 2013 at 2:21 pm

Thank you, Kate! That raises another interesting aspect of all of this, I think. When something ends up looking different than it did when we were little, or than society might expect, we think it doesn’t “count.”
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Jesicka Labud August 24, 2013 at 9:44 am

Inspiring post Kate! Glad you asked- it’s funny because I remember all the crazy things I wanted to be, and in order too! First I wanted to take pictures of sea creatures (someone said it was called “oceanographer” and I thought that just sounded AWESOME! when I was in first grade and I would constantly tell people I wanted to be an oceanographer to see the look on their faces!) Next, I wanted to be a TEACHER because I was sooo in love with my first grade teacher Miss Rainieri and I wanted to love everyone like she did. Then I wanted to be an Animator who drew cartoons because I loved watching them! I drew every disney character!!!..But following closely after all these things I wanted to be an architect and that stayed with me- and I pursued it all the way! I still LOVE architecture and the idea of building that dream house or castle for everyone who wants one… but I did leave the profession for now because I believe that it is a broken profession at the moment! And I will take my childhood dream of becoming an architect for the right reasons and somehow make that happen the way it was SUPPOSED to be! But yes, right now as a tech entrepreneur and blogger, I am pretty giddy and happy with that as well!
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Kate Marolt August 24, 2013 at 10:05 pm

Umm LOVE this!! haha and it sounds so familiar- I wanted to be so many different things! It’s really cool that you love architecture so much that you want to do it for the right reasons and create dream dwellings for people. Amazing.

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PaulasWork... August 24, 2013 at 1:01 pm

You what, I never went to university exactly for that reason. I never knew what I wanted to do then and didn’t for many years. I just knew that what was the point in doing what everyone else was doing, just because I had to? I didn’t know then that I was being some kind of a rebel and probably doing the best thing for my life back then. I always support kids and adults in looking outside of the norm, but so many just don’t see it – or they do – they are just afraid. My childhood, I don’t think I knew what I wanted to be then either – I was too busy playing! Thanks for your post, uncertainty is the way forward definitely :)
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Kate Marolt August 24, 2013 at 10:07 pm

“I was too busy playing!”
Love it.
Sounds like your ‘rebellion’ was really just doing what made you happy. We need more of that in the world!!

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Wendy August 24, 2013 at 3:35 pm

Inspiring! I need to look back on what I wanted to be when I was young… I think I wanted to be like some wort of scientist where I would be hiking through forests collecting and observing stuff :)

Which hasn’t crossed my mind in years but still sounds appealing!

Now to figure out… what’s stopping me?!?!?
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Kate Marolt August 24, 2013 at 10:08 pm

Freaking awesome! Any hikes you can go on nearby where you live? It may not pay money, but it still sounds fun! :)

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Paul August 25, 2013 at 10:54 am

Hi there Kate, oh I was such a dreamer when I was a kid ~ which got me into trouble frequently. I had this deep desire to become a leader of some kind, as well as Cowboy and a Superhero of course : ) I feel that I am on the right path.

I was so much up for adventure and exploring unknown territories. You are so right exploration, courage, discovery and adventure is what life is all about ~ and by allowing ourselves to experience as much as we can in life we can discover our full potential (which is unlimited). Very nicely written !
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Michaela Cristallo August 27, 2013 at 4:23 am

I know the feeling well Kate! I’m honestly stretched a little thin at the moment juggling part time work, two businesses and study! I haven’t reached burnout but I am feeling that underlying sense of panic you talk of at times.

It’s become a bit of a difficult juggling act for me but at this point there’s no one thing I want to or can cut. I know in time I will probably need to make some tough decisions but for now I will follow your advice and give myself the time when I need it. Thank you for writing this, I think it’s something many of us can relate to!
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Kate Marolt September 3, 2013 at 2:17 am

Ah yes, the underlying panic…. being aware of it is the first step! Take care of yourself as best as you can :)

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Ana Goncalves August 28, 2013 at 4:19 pm

Thank you for a great reminder!

I admit I have been feeling rather over whelmed lately due to being there for everyone else that I have forgotten to be there for myself and felt like I haven’t deserved time off. When I take time off I feel most happy and alive and doing the special things for myself just makes the day easier.

Have a wonderful blessed week x
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Kate Marolt September 3, 2013 at 4:17 pm

That happens to so many people Ana- we feel like we don’t deserve to take a break. You always deserve to feel full and energized and healthy! Thank you for sharing.

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Khrstle August 28, 2013 at 11:39 pm

Thank you for all of the great suggestions! Burnout for me always results in me being sick and generally I am sick for awhile because I just keep going and pushing through until it knocks me out and I am in bed unable to move. You make great points that will help me to change my ways before I end up laid out. One of the ways that I alter my behavior is, like you said, doing what counts and throwing everything else out the window for a later date. At one point I even quit one of my jobs because the full-time and part-time combo was way too much for my body to handle. Some people have no problem working 60 hours or more in two different jobs; I myself can’t do it. When I am starting to become run down I generally have a glass of emergencee – hoping to boost my immune system so I can keep going. Luckily, my life has changed since I quit my other job so I don’t feel burnt out as often, but planning my days and listening to my body helps me stay checked in and living in a way that works best for me.
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Kate Marolt September 3, 2013 at 2:18 am

Good for you for recognizing that 60+ hours is not for you! Emergen-C is a great start- making sure you have vitamins and nutrients is super helpful in preventing sickness!

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Jesicka Labud August 29, 2013 at 1:15 pm

This article is great. It is exactly what I needed to hear right now. I was going through those exact burnout symptoms last week. My husband and I decided to make a clear break between “you time” and “work time” instead of working through ALL our time and just feeling guilty all the time for not working more. (The symptoms- like sugar craving, insomnia, feeling stuck, headaches…) they have slowly started going away this week. This week I am going to focus on meditation. The last two days I’ve meditated and I totally agree with you on renewing your batteries to FULL. Thanks so much for yet another great post!
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Kate Marolt September 3, 2013 at 2:19 am

Ahh!! I used to work all the time. NO FUN! So amazing to hear your symptoms are going away- you are doing it exactly right.

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Paul August 29, 2013 at 8:08 pm

Hi Katy thank you for sharing with us such great ideas. I can totally relate to the challenge of overwhelm and burn out. As a full time office manager and musician I find it particularly important to stay aware of what my body tells me. Playing piano music helps me to re-connect & re-charge. Whenever I feel overwhelm I firstly give attention to the discussions in my (basically the self talk) then seek to replace any un-supportive language with positive affirmations such as “I VALUE & APPRECIATE EVERYTHING I DO”. I am looking forward to reading more of your posts Katy because they are so inspiring.
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Kate Marolt September 3, 2013 at 2:20 am

Thanks Paul! Love the idea of positive affirmations and playing music. Great stuff!

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Susan August 30, 2013 at 4:42 am

Thanks for the nice post, Kate. Because of my illness, I have to pay serious attention to rest, relaxation, and self-care at all times, so it is rare to approach a state of burnout. Of course it took years of overdoing on the good days, and then suffering on the bad days, to figure out how to pace myself, and add in enough time every day for rest and healing. Plus my sleepy brain is rarely focused enough to work on one thing for long enough to be burned out on it.

My process for staying as healthy as possible does look a lot like the steps you outlined above, though the first thing on my list is to pay attention to my body. Then prioritize and re-prioritize what needs to be done. I do allow myself a generous amount of time to get things done. And, as for healing, I give myself a Reiki healing treatment just about every day to keep the headaches away, minimize aches and pains, maximize energy, and keep emotional balance. And another big key is paying attention to what’s happening now, and keeping my mind out of the past or the future.
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Kate Marolt September 3, 2013 at 2:21 am

Thank you so much for sharing, Susan. And what a great point- always listen to your body!

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Renee August 31, 2013 at 7:16 am

Kate, wonderful, practical advice for a common symptom – I have a lot on my plate, I’ll refer to your recommendations often! Thank you!

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Kate Marolt September 3, 2013 at 4:16 pm

Great Renee! Glad it helps! :)

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Amy Scott August 31, 2013 at 2:14 pm

Thanks for this, Kate! It seems like my body and mind can handle an awful lot before I realize how thin I’ve stretched myself, so one of the keys for me is to recognize it before it’s too late.

I loved this: “If you don’t take the time to fully restore, depletion will happen that much more quickly the next time around. Take a full day (or two or three) off. Disconnect from the outside world, from screen time.” And the phone analogy was great!

It’s easy for me to take a couple hours off, but I don’t take a full day—or, gasp, several!—often enough.
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Kate Marolt September 3, 2013 at 2:22 am

Right? To take a FULL day off used to seem ridiculous to me. How would I get anything done?? It’s amazing what can happen though- I always come back from time off energized and excited to get to work! Thanks for commenting!

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Wendy September 1, 2013 at 12:07 am

Lately I’ve felt burnout a lot. In my personal and professional life.I do realize recharging is important, and I’ve learned to be guilt free about doing it, but it’s hard sometimes when you don’t catch a true true break. It feels like I’m trying to recharge non stop which is also bad. That is what I have yet to figure out… but a lot of what I have going on in my life right now is circumstantial and temporary so part of what I have to do for now it to wait and keep charging forward – even if it means recharging back to myself as well :)
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Kate Marolt September 3, 2013 at 2:25 am

It can be crazy when you have a lot going on for sure. Sounds like you are doing the best you can!

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Martin Labud September 1, 2013 at 9:29 am

Kate, I understand this post because I used to be burned out all the time. When I had a full time job (which went late into the night) and then I came home to get my personal work done, I really could not find the energy or positive motivation and affirmations. On top of that I would set more goals for myself and this was a bad cycle.

These days, I am watching out so that I don’t get burned out anymore. Ever since my wife and I quit our jobs to pursue our passion full time, we have been making sure to get some outdoor activities in there like cycling and picnics, and sometimes if we’re stuck we just stop working, meditate and cook a really nice meal. It’s important to do these things as much as it is to meet your goals.
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Kate Marolt September 3, 2013 at 4:16 pm

So true Martin and I’m glad you brought that up- I used to do that all the time…. set MORE goals and deadlines when I was already exhausted! Trying to stay in control :)

Love that you have been making time to be outside and to cook. So important for overall health and well-being. Thank you for sharing!

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Jo September 1, 2013 at 11:53 am

Wow. Great post! Lately, I have changed a lot in my life for the better (that’s what I believe at least: nutrition, exercise, belief systems). Nevertheless, I ended up with a tinnitus and feel a little confused, to say the least. Maybe I’m putting myself through too much, even if it’s good things. Will need to consider this more… Thanks for your ideas!
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Kate Marolt September 3, 2013 at 2:24 am

Thank you! Sometimes, too, our bodies just need to adjust to the new way of being. Continue to check in and do what you need to do!

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PaulasWork... September 1, 2013 at 7:12 pm

Hey, I took today off. Felt a little guilty but felt it needed to be done, turned off my phone and only now at 8pm have I switched on my laptop. I know that I need to look after myself more often, not worry and feel guilty for taking this slowly and being a little selfish. Thank you for this wonderful reminder that I can do this.
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Kate Marolt September 3, 2013 at 2:23 am

Good for you! Seriously, it takes courage to take time off. You are awesome.

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Natalie Sisson September 3, 2013 at 2:09 am

Great stuff Kate. Love the way you’ve broken this down and got really clear about it. Can’t wait to meet your new team!
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Kate Marolt September 3, 2013 at 2:15 am

Thanks Natalie! After writing this I future-hired my new assistant… she’ll be starting in a couple of months! Appreciate the push! :)

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Amy Scott September 7, 2013 at 3:47 pm

Thanks for this, Kate! I like how you took the theme of the blog challenge and also made it relevant to everyone. I love how they play off one another; for me, consistent ACTION is what has helped me find clarity. Trying things out, seeing if I enjoy them and they resonate with others, has give me much better direction.
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Jesicka Labud September 7, 2013 at 8:13 pm

Kate, these keys are truly helpful to keep in mind. I love how you offer all the keys and make sure to still add: try not to be perfect All the time. You’re the a caring friend who gives out advice and love, making sure we don’t get burned out.

I have trouble with getting sucked into the social media vortex as you called it so appropriately. I need to keep myself in check to make sure I don’t get off track. I also definitely agree with the need to find clarity. I haven’t 100% reached that yet so I am stilllooking for it. Hopefully it will become more evident as iI keep writing. Thanks for this!

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Wendy September 8, 2013 at 4:53 pm

What a great and timely article for me!

These are exactly the things I need to work on myself right now. Like, with Key #1. I vary so wildly from day to day on what I want to do and who I think I can help… I really need to narrow that down and focus.

Once I have that down, I’ll be able to better work on everything else I want to do that ties into it, but #1 is holding me back!

Thanks for clarifying for me what my real holdup is – I’ve been wishy-washing about the wrong things!
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Michaela Cristallo September 8, 2013 at 11:34 pm

I love your three keys to being awesome Kate! Really direct, honest and valuable advice here :) What you say about not needing to be perfect all the time, and knowing when to seek the help of others really resonated with me too. This is something I need to get better at!!
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Martin Labud September 9, 2013 at 10:01 am

The three C’s… clarity, consistency, and community. Wow. I am so behind on them all! I mean, this article is very helpful because I focus on success in many ways but many times I forget about these very important three C’s. I like how you got them to start with all C. The most difficult of the three are consistency for me, because I need to find a way to walk my talk. I talk about consistently learning programming to master it in my blog but some days between blogging, working on the product and planning my businesses, I forget to study my programming. (Or I can’t find time.) I know I need to have a structure in place for that.
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Michael Knouse September 9, 2013 at 8:02 pm

Thank you Kate! These are great reminders, especially the one about not being a hero. In the early stages of my business, it feels awkward to reach out for support and delegate. I always seem to feel like it’s easier to put this off until…

You have helped bring to the forefront that I need to delegate and get support now rather than continue to put this off until some magical time in the future when everything is working better. The reality is that I need to quit being the hero right now in order for things to improve. This was just the perfect nudge that I needed to make some important changes today.
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Leslie Trawler October 11, 2013 at 11:48 am

Is MailChimp cheaper than Aweber. I find Aweber not affordable.
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Kate Marolt October 17, 2013 at 1:07 am

MailChimp is free for up to 2000 subscribers. Or something like that :)

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Christopher James October 17, 2013 at 1:37 pm

I agree. It must be due to technological advancement. But people tend to find the easy way and give up easily when faced with obstacles. That’s really sad.
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Kathryn Dilligard October 19, 2013 at 2:48 pm

This is perfect. Now time to get rid of self-doubt and live and awesome life.
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Kate Marolt October 19, 2013 at 10:50 pm

Yeah!!! Get it Kathryn! :)

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Christopher James October 22, 2013 at 11:03 am

That’s cool. I wonder if I can follow the same techniques for affiliate marketing.

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Polina October 22, 2013 at 3:04 pm

Hakuna Matata!

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Kate Marolt October 22, 2013 at 8:49 pm

No worries, baby! ;)

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Christy Primmer October 22, 2013 at 8:07 pm

Kate!!!!

I am giving total props to you. You are absolutely adorable + I luv how raw and real you are!!
My personal favourite song to sing my heart out to (I have thousands) is currently Bran Van 3000 “Drinking in LA”

Thanks so much for your sweet lil vid clip. Keep on rockin’…..

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Kate Marolt October 22, 2013 at 8:50 pm

Aww thanks Christy!! I’m mainly just a huge dork, lol :)

Sing it out!! Especially at red lights!

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Aras Androck October 24, 2013 at 11:52 am

Something silly and spontaneous. Now that’s fun!

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Kate Marolt October 24, 2013 at 6:36 pm

haha yeah! Sometimes the best thing is to just have fun :)

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Shaun Hoobler October 26, 2013 at 8:52 am

I’m feeling burnout too. But for some reason, I feel like I still need to be more productive. Weird.

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Kate Marolt November 4, 2013 at 2:41 pm

Oh yes… I’ve been there. It’s a trap! In all seriousness though, I’ve noticed the times when we feel like we have to do it all, or don’t have time to take a break… that’s the best time to take a break. Not forever- just a momentary space to check in and care for yourself can go a long way!

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Lynell Bumpas October 29, 2013 at 11:50 am

Looking forward to seeing those awesome and fun things.
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Andy Bland October 31, 2013 at 10:20 am

Outsourcing is the bomb!

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Shaun Hoobler November 2, 2013 at 9:10 am

Way to make email list building sound fun

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Mike Huiwitz November 5, 2013 at 11:16 am

I have a big personality alright. Well at least I hope I do

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James Robinson November 7, 2013 at 10:17 am

Sell yourself first before you can sell the products.

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Aras Androck November 9, 2013 at 10:38 am

I love doing silly things every once in a while. It’s a good way to unwind and loosen up

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Christopher James November 12, 2013 at 8:09 am

Taking a much-needed break always seems to do the work for me

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Susie Lampman November 14, 2013 at 11:02 am

I tried belly breathing. It’s not easy.

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Jennifer Kimberley November 16, 2013 at 9:43 am

I use HootSuite too. It makes social media management a lot easier..

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Kathryn Dilligard November 20, 2013 at 8:16 am

Yes, I heard BlueHost is good. I might switch to it after my hosting package in GoDaddy expired.

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David Ryan November 22, 2013 at 7:38 am

Love this! And I hope it helps me become a social media superstar..

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Kristy Moore November 29, 2013 at 5:35 am

I’m feeling your why too Kate! Amazing things happen when you start with WHY. My why is to positively change the way people look at their life, work and family – for them to see what really matters in their life and then live a life that matter to them. I believe the most amazing ways to open eyes to new perspectives, and to see what really matters and what’s possible is to explore the world (at all stages of life and biz) and to volunteer. Feeling a boost of amazement now, thanks for inviting comments :)

Love your idea of a ‘feel good’ list for work activities.
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Kate Marolt November 29, 2013 at 4:39 pm

That’s awesome Kristy!! Thank you so much for sharing- it’s so powerful to be able to come back to our WHY at any moment- it’s always an amazing energy boost for me! Love yours, too- exploring and volunteering are amazing ways to get out there and live deliberately :)

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Elleyess December 4, 2013 at 11:27 pm

Kate, this post rings true for so many people I know. How many of us become discouraged and disgruntled after weeks, months and years of chipping away at our jobs? Well, that was put in a very depressing way as it’s not always like that — but generally (at this time of year for me) it gets very difficult to see and embrace our original mission; the one that motivated and helped us propel our careers, businesses to where they are now.

It is absolutely important and imperative that we take some time to recalibrate and refocus on what brought us here in the first place. I completely agree that we need to analyze what our purpose and the affect we are having through our work — and the passion that drives us forward. I love this, thank you!

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Kate Marolt December 5, 2013 at 6:55 pm

So many great points– this can be an interesting time of year to remain focused. Love that you said recalibrate- doing that every few months is so helpful to remind me why I do what I do. Thank you for stopping by!

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Kendra December 5, 2013 at 2:52 am

WOW…thank you for this as it is totally what I needed today! Am going to be working on my WHY as well as the feel good list.
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Kate Marolt December 5, 2013 at 6:54 pm

Awesome Kendra! Really glad this resonated with you. Looking forward to hearing about any shifts that list helps you make!

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Connie December 9, 2013 at 6:54 am

LOVE THIS POST! So here it goes…

MISSION STATMENT
My mission is to awaken people up to their life’s full potential and purpose through spiritual practices and common sense. To remove chaos and confusion through developing the right mindset for everyday moments. To bring about moments of clarity in each experience.

WHY STATEMENT
I want to change the world. I want to leave it a better place then when I found it. I want to be a part of the movement that has been brewing for decades. That kindness should win over hatred. That love should arise from community. That our differences be celebrated and accepted. That the golden rule is the first rule in each nation for all sentient beings. I believe in the ability of humanity and essence of our authentic truth. I want to educate light workers to go out and spread the common humanity belief system to the global community. I want to unite us and work together for the common good of the earth, the animals and the consciousness for all.

That is why I push forward everyday to make my world bigger, brighter, more joyful and abundant. As I work on me, my goal is to exude the confidence in all others to do the same.

Thank you for this post. Thank you for allowing me to share. And Thank YOU for spreading your laughter and joy to the world. :)
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Kate Marolt December 9, 2013 at 3:32 pm

Connie, that is beautiful. I can FEEL your mission and the FIRE in your why. Thank you for doing the work, for showing up- the world is so blessed to have you in it!

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Susan Burns December 10, 2013 at 5:09 am

Kate this is all so true. And for the first time in my life, I am clear on why I am doing what I am doing. And it makes everything clearer, if not easier. I am working on starting an alternative church for people affected by chronic conditions.

Why? Because I lived for too many years with a chronic condition that took me out of the mainstream of life and isolated me. I am an ordained minister, but was unable to work because of my illness. It became impossible to fit into the church I had been attending.

And now that I have treatment and am able to work a bit, I think about all the people out there who are isolated by chronic illness and disability, who can’t navigate the social niceties of a regular church, and know that I can do something about it. And that drives me to do something that not been done before, that I know of.
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Kate Marolt December 11, 2013 at 3:32 pm

Susan, that’s amazing. I love how you said it makes things clearer, if not easier. A lot of the time I’ve found the work is just as ‘hard’ or time consuming- but it feels easier or more simple because I know clearly why I’m doing it.

What you are doing in this world is important. Thank you.

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Angela van Son December 11, 2013 at 8:30 pm

For me freedom is living from want to, not from should. This may sound vague, but I have a shipload of shoulds in my head that tell me how I’m supposed to be doing it at alomost everything I do. I’m slowly getting better at ignoring them. It leaves me free to do things my way, to make mistakes, to experiment, to create, to play… it also leaves me free to choose some of my shoulds as I want to, making them my own choice.

I feel energised when I coach, when I write a poem or short story, when I’m in a sauna enjoying all that physical well being, at concerts, when I create my e-courses, when I’m with friends having fun, when I walk in nature….

I’m not even going to write down my draining list, it would be draining ;) I have spent too much time with those things already and I know them too well.
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Kate Marolt December 19, 2013 at 3:47 pm

haha that’s awesome Angela- I’m glad you know what drains you, and I agree- once we are aware of it, focusing all the energy on the wants and aliveness is the best way to go! So many people aren’t even aware of what’s draining… kudos to you for knowing! And right there with you on the ‘shoulds’ – we should (haha) all take a little ‘should’ detox! Thanks for sharing.

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Kendra December 12, 2013 at 3:32 am

Oh dear…one thing I’m terrible about is making lists! :( But the ones you show us here make total sense. I’m going to sit down this evening and actually make my lists so that I can begin to create my freedom blueprint! Thanks so much for this gentle push…
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erica lawrence: naturopath - body ecologist. December 15, 2013 at 2:02 pm

Yes to FREEDOM!
I really enjoy your blueprint; very practical stuff. It’s so easy to get caught up living lives that are draining. The longer we put off tapping into the things that make us feel truly alive, the more disconnected we become from our true purpose!
I’d better make a few lists soon, thus far they’ve only been mental but writing them down makes it tangible. Thanks for this!
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Kate Marolt December 19, 2013 at 3:45 pm

You’re welcome, Erica! I love your Enthusiasm!! Definitely write those lists- I keep my ‘what energizes me’ list on a sticky note on my desktop- every time I’m feeling drained I pick something and go do it! Tangibility (is that a word?) is key :)

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Debra December 18, 2013 at 5:03 am

Hi Kate, great activities to try here! I especially need to think about what energises me as I tend to dwell more on what drains me. I’m writing about ‘Desire’ at the moment too and I think the key to your Freedom Blueprint is the question: Why you desire it? This takes some digging and soul searching, but just keep asking ‘why’ until you get to the heart of it! That’s the end goal, or rather, then end ‘feeling’ that will allow you to feel free. Great stuff!

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Kate Marolt December 19, 2013 at 3:25 pm

Debra, thanks so much for stopping by. I used to focus on what drained me, and how to avoid those things. Turns out, that’s a recipe for inviting more of them into your life! AND YES: DESIRE. AMAZING. So glad you are writing about it- the more we focus on the feelings we want… the more they will show up! :)

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Lik Fenix December 20, 2013 at 9:11 pm

Ha, that’ inspiring! Thank you for sharing the story, Kate!

A movement immediately came into my mind that has been scaring the hell out of me… As far as Google says, in yoga it is coming into Halasana / Plow Pose. Any time I think about it, I fear that I will roll over my head and twist my neck :(

Not to mention that I have never thought about doing handstands until this evening (though the power moves / freezes in breakdance are somewhat similar, and during my year in a hip-hop dance studio dance I was wishing I could learn to do them).

Anyway, I’m in! :) For the small steps in action. You mentioned NerdFitness, and a guest post there (again thanks to Google) describes a very seducing path to handstands (http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2013/10/24/how-to-handstand-better-than-luke-skywalker/), I am up for that.
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Kate Marolt December 23, 2013 at 2:25 pm

Yeay! So glad you are in :) Be kind to yourself, consistency is key! I love Nerd Fitness- their 6 week challenges in the forums are awesome for accountability and support!

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Lik December 25, 2013 at 12:37 am

I get inspired just by reading your dream… What would be in a couple of years of working on it? Amazing! Keep rocking on, Kate!

My dream is to help more people come alive for here & now & their own unique lives, by using my art in several media. It’s funny that when I’m going through the questions that you offered, my present self thinks about the scale of impact – go on world music tours, have big photo exhibitions, put my books on shelves of the retail stores… And when I switch to the mindset of that person, he wants to have more direct involvement, like one-on-one and small group coaching, so he can be close to people, see their progress, provide timely corrections and celebrate their accomplishments… Which is close to what I start in 2014. Am I getting it backwards?
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Kate Marolt January 13, 2014 at 2:20 pm

Sounds great!

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Amanda December 27, 2013 at 8:27 pm

Thank you for including my blog post in your roundup! I’m a good company! :)

Hope you had a lovely Christmas and enjoy the New Year!
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Kate Marolt January 13, 2014 at 2:18 pm

Absolutely! Love your stuff!! Happy 2014 :)

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Ana Goncalves January 22, 2014 at 6:12 pm

Hello Kate,

Love your article and video. I have been on this theme all this week and working on being open to what I desire. I went for a walk today and I received a lot of insights and answers especially in regards to my Business which is one of the things that I was hazy on and I feel a lot clearer now and my main desires are to follow my dreams, be open to new experiences, and step into my heart with greater ease and clarity.

Best wishes to you and all your desires in 2014 xx

Ana
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Kate Marolt January 23, 2014 at 12:07 am

Thanks Ana!

Oooh going for walks is one of my favorite things to do :) Always get some good stuff.

So excited to see what happens for you this year! Ease and clarity– YES!!

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Kristy Moore February 3, 2014 at 8:02 am

Love it Kate! Taking action, again and again is so, soooooo important.

Hope you had a blast in Belize! I bet that fit in perfectly with your 2014 ask :)
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Kate Marolt February 3, 2014 at 6:38 pm

Yes!! All the action!! :)
Belize was amazing… blog posts to come!

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Melissa February 4, 2014 at 5:06 pm

Yes! Such a delicious question question ‘WHAT DO YOU WANT?’ I find people sometimes skip that and they just start asking but have no idea what they really want. What a great post! Can’t wait to hear about your Belize adventures!
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Kate Marolt February 4, 2014 at 5:13 pm

So true! It’s amazing how many times I haven’t gotten what I wanted because I didn’t really know. When I know exactly what I want… I usually get it :) Thanks for stopping by!

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Michael Knouse February 4, 2014 at 5:19 pm

Hi Kate, This is so good! I just love it – especially the powerful example of how to ask for what you want with commitment and feeling. This is a great example for me since I can easily get stuck in that linear space of just stating the facts. It’s way more empowering (and fun) to ask with clarity, emotion and confidence all blended together.

P.S. I love your playful energy in the video too! :-)
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Kate Marolt February 4, 2014 at 5:38 pm

Thank you! Yes, way more fun! When I really feel things I totally want them even more- and believe I can get them. Glad it was helpful!!!! :)

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Sandy Sidhu February 5, 2014 at 2:55 am

Love this! Amazing how asking and declaring what we want with the right intention can make all the difference. I plan on doing more asking in 2014. Thanks for this :)
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Kate Marolt February 6, 2014 at 5:39 pm

Yes!!! So much difference. Can’t wait to hear your big asks, Sandy!

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Elleyess February 5, 2014 at 3:52 pm

This is SUCH a great post (particularly as our new years’ resolutions are all down, and probably dropping like flies). I really like how you’ve outlined the steps in reaching our seemingly unattainable goals. And if you don’t ask, you’ll never know if you can get! Thanks for sharing!
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Kate Marolt February 6, 2014 at 5:40 pm

Thank you! I know, New Years Resolutions… easy to make, easy to forget. All we need is clarity and action- simple, but sometimes surprisingly difficult. So we ask! :) Appreciate you coming by.

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erica lawrence: naturopath - body ecologist. February 10, 2014 at 5:41 am

Hi Kate,
Fantastic post. I just finished reading a book that outlines this exact process and it is such an important one! I’ve been seriously tapping into this process and trying to establish it on a regular basis.
We must have an emotional connection to our thoughts in order for the universe to respond. We also have to ask in order to receive. Pretty neat.
You managed to discuss a really intense subject with such light and ease. I can feel your joyous energy here in Australia! Happy travels x

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erica lawrence: naturopath - body ecologist. February 13, 2014 at 8:47 am

Yay! “Do what makes you feel alive”. Hell yes sista… and if you’re not sure, well that’s a bit sad. But hey, it’s never too late to start searching for that something and making it a priority in one’s life, eh?
It’s funny how we somehow don’t feel worthy enough of a happy, amazing, fulfilled life and self sabotage to prevent it from happening. Well done on creating awareness and kicking our asses off the couch, where many are wallowing in self pity.
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Kate Marolt February 14, 2014 at 5:09 am

It’s never too late! :) Former master of self-sabotage… hoping to spread that awareness that it can be another way!

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Michael Knouse February 13, 2014 at 8:12 pm

This is such a huge and important topic. It’s been proven that we can become chemically addicted to certain behaviors, even if they don’t make us feel good. Eating greasy foods, laying around and watching TV, planning to get up early but hitting snooze 25 times instead. These are all examples of behaviors that make us feel like crap but give us a very brief hint of satisfaction.

It’s just as easy (and way more fun) to choose things that will have long-lasting benefits – like your kickboxing class! You’ve inspired me to definitely go to yoga class tonight. Great article, Kate!

P.S. I love Zelda’s cameow appearance! :-)
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Kate Marolt February 14, 2014 at 5:07 am

Ahh so true- I used to be such a slave to junk food and Netflix. Still love both of them, but have a better handle on when to enjoy and when to do other things instead! :D Hope you enjoyed yoga! And… cameow. YES. AMAZING.

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Kristy Moore February 13, 2014 at 9:01 pm

Amazing message in your video and post Kate! This morning is the perfect time for me to do exactly what will have me feeling on top of the world (well, in an everyday I’m not travelling the world sense). Anyhow, thanks for the burst of positive, must-do-the-things-that-matter-first energy! Enjoy the buzz of NYC.
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Kate Marolt February 14, 2014 at 5:08 am

Yeay! It’s not about having to do extraordinary things- rather, how can we feeling amazing with all of the ordinary-ness!

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Melissa February 14, 2014 at 3:49 pm

A big excuse I hear all the time is that “I don’t have enough time” and that’s so crazy it’s really crazy. This is your life…make the time! I love going to classes too and will make them a priority every week, especially cause the yoga studio is 3 minutes from my front door. Hope you have a great time in NYC :)
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CherylAnn February 19, 2014 at 11:38 pm

You’ve inspired me to make a list!! My biggest excuse is lack of funds for the more expensive endeavors like climbing. But, I am digging my new hula hoop right now. I’m stopped because it’s big and I have to do it outside where people can see me! Haha! I’m going to do it anyway. Maybe someone else will be inspired by how much fun I’m having.
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Kate Marolt February 24, 2014 at 1:42 pm

Yeay! Get it CherylAnn! Who cares if people see- chances are, they’ll want to join in :) So glad you are going for it!

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Courtney February 21, 2014 at 5:05 am

Awesome post Kate!

I can completely relate to your thoughts and have often felt some of your same feelings as Tom and I travel this year.

However, facing discomfort and fears has taught me so much about myself as well as let me begin to let go of judgement and opinions of others.

The brilliant thing about traveling is in order to feel comfortable in unknown environments you are forced to learn to love yourself because YOU are the only consistent force in your world if you’re on the road.

If you are having trouble loving yourself it also becomes very apparent why!

You did a great job of summing up so much of the emotions I’ve been feeling on this year of travel and I love how you provide actionable items for those who may be looking to make a change.

Enjoy your time in Bali. It is such a magical place. There is something amazing about that land that will speak to you and change you if you let it. Not sure if you caught my post from Bali but here it is….at least the second more reflective one. http://www.farawayreasons.com/bali-an-island-of-self-discovery/

I just wish we had been there at the same time! I would have loved to do yoga with you at the yoga barn! :)

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Kate Marolt February 21, 2014 at 5:13 am

Thanks so much! Ahh I know I wish we had all been here at the same time- that would have been amazing :) I’m sure our paths will cross somewhere in the world again and we can play yoga all we like!

I appreciate your insights so much- travel definitely teaches you both about who you are and how to be comfortable with yourself. Thanks for sharing your post as well- so beautifully written.

Much love to you!!

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Kate Lindsay March 9, 2014 at 6:05 pm

Amazing post Kate. (great name!!) A year ago I was laid off from a full time job that I didn’t love, or even like, or that was really good for my health. I was looking forward to being set free. It amazed me how many of my co-workers at the time were genuinely concerned for me. It was nice that they cared, but they were all shocked when I said that not only was I not really worried I was kind of excited. I have been back working there 1-2 days a week since November. Its all on my own terms and as a fill in day….its nice to go back and catch up with some people (and a days pay is always OK too). Just last month I was asked to come back full time (6 days/week) I discussed it with my husband (who also works there but on different shifts) and we decided that that was not in our best interest (I am blessed to have such wonderful support) Was it scary to say “No Thank you” to a full time good paying job with benefits?? Heck Yeah it was. I am just now practicing being comfortable telling other people I turned it down. The security of a regular pay check holds so many of us right where we are. Taking a leap to run a biz of my own instead was a big deal. But it just felt right. The fear felt more comfortable than the job that was being offered. We shall see what unfolds I guess. I am uncomfortable at times but I know that is where opportunity waits :)
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Kate Marolt March 23, 2014 at 2:27 am

Wow, Kate, that is an amazing story. Thank you so much for sharing and for being an inspiration.

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Sandy March 9, 2014 at 10:47 pm

So inspiring, Kate! I think for me it’s a mindset thing- there are certain things I want to do but then the old lizard brain/resistance kicks in and suddenly you find yourself back in your comfort zone. Thanks for breaking it down into actionable steps!
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Kate Marolt March 23, 2014 at 2:26 am

Thanks Sandy! :)

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Elleyess March 10, 2014 at 9:49 am

Wow this post is spot on!! I was just telling myself the other day that I need to be more comfortable with being uncomfortable because that’s where the magic happens! Outside your comfort zone…! I truly believe that the people who take the biggest risks with a leap out to the unknown are the ones who reap the biggest rewards. And that goes for everything (work, love, etc). Thanks for reminding us of that!

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Kate Marolt March 23, 2014 at 2:26 am

Yes yes yes so true! When we stay comfortable, we get more of the same :) Which sometimes is good, but can get pretty boring! Thank you for the reminder that risks lead to rewards.

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CherylAnn March 12, 2014 at 10:11 pm

Great exercise! So true that we carry fear around in our bodies. I appreciate the reminder to learn to release it. Very timely, too.
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Kate Marolt March 23, 2014 at 2:25 am

Thanks CherylAnn. Any time- let’s keep our bodies healthy and not let fear control us :)

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Kendra March 14, 2014 at 3:58 pm

I am so aware of the fear that is holding me back. I love this exercise and am going to be doing it for my own fears which I so need to release. Thank you!

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Kate Marolt March 23, 2014 at 2:24 am

Sure Kendra! It’s crazy how much the fear takes over, right? Keep me posted on how it goes!

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Justin Harmon March 15, 2014 at 4:46 pm

Fear is a bleeping bleep bleep. Great article Kate! Accepting it in and using it to show that, yes, moving forward is worthwhile. Thanks but no thanks fear, I got this. Boom! Oh, and I did 30 minutes of yoga yesterday with my daughter. Part of my new training routine :)
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Kate Marolt March 23, 2014 at 2:24 am

Thanks Justin! And yeay yoga!!!!!!! So awesome ;)

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Paula March 16, 2014 at 3:56 pm

Fear is a biggie in my life especially when deal with emotions that I don’t want to deal with. I really needed something to help me deal with those feelings and release them. Thank you so much for this post. Just came up when I needed it :)
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Kate Marolt March 23, 2014 at 2:23 am

It’s a big one in my life too! So glad this was helpful for you :)

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Justin Harmon March 26, 2014 at 9:20 pm

Great questions to ask yourself Kate! I definitely agree that the most rewarding work is the work we end up resisting. That type of work almost always answers yes to your framework. It’s energizing, well, when we get through it. It for sure expands us by growing through the resistance. And helping/being of service is a reward in itself.

Great stuff! Personally, I need to start asking these questions before I dive into something and then find out it doesn’t do any of the above.
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Kate Marolt March 31, 2014 at 5:03 am

Thanks Justin. And that’s a really good point– getting super caught up in something and then halfway through realizing it isn’t actually doing those things– I know that story all too well. I’m still working out exactly how I deal with those situations, and having these questions handy is super helpful.

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Kendra March 27, 2014 at 12:34 am

Oh I love, love, love this! These are excellent questions to be asking ourselves. Thank you Kate for posting this and I will be printing it out to remind myself of what the questions are!
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Kate Marolt March 31, 2014 at 5:01 am

Awesome Kendra! Yes to seeing it as a reminder too– I have it on my computer so whenever I open it up, they are the first thing I see :)

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Brooklyn March 28, 2014 at 8:00 pm

Kate this is an awesome article and I love the fancy title to your method: The Framework for Aligned Action

I think that framing work in this way is very energizing as you said. I also think that the three questions could be added to something that is not energizing to help turn my attitude around. For example: Let’s say I absolutely loath a task that has to be done like the dishes. I could use your questions to make it more enjoyable.

I could ask myself “What can I add to this task that would make me energized or expanded?”

A solution that I have found for this specific task, is listening to music or a self improvement recording while I do the dishes. I know enjoy this task because of the energy that I have added by doing something enjoyable.
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Kate Marolt March 31, 2014 at 5:01 am

Thanks Brooklyn! I love that example, too- it works everywhere! Ideally, we get to do things we enjoy and that light us up. And the real test is, as you pointed out, is finding ways to feel joy and light in every situation- including the dishes! Thanks so much for your insights.

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Nicole March 29, 2014 at 2:36 am

wow Kate — thanks for breaking this down into 3 questions for me! I also spend a lot of energy on the wrong tasks because I love to help others and this framework will be very helpful for me in the future when making decisions on how to spend my time!

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Kate Marolt March 31, 2014 at 5:00 am

Awesome Nicole- so glad that this helps :) I love helping people too… and when it gets to the point of exhaustion it’s no good! This way you can help people in a way that fills you up too!

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