If you’ve been here before, you know that freedom is one of my deepest core values- both for myself and for the people around me.
One thing I’ve noticed, too, is that while we all desire freedom, not as many of us have taken the time to really get clear on what freedom means to us. If you don’t know what freedom means to you, you will never know when you ‘have’ it. It will always be something vague that you put off for the future- when you have more of x or less of y. It is critical for actually being free to get clear on what freedom entails, and how it will appear practically in your life (aka, in a way you can measure for yourself so you know you are aligned to your freedom or not!)
Operating from a base of freedom allows us to create in real time, to align to the moment we are in, and experience the world in a way that honors who we are and where we are at. As I say in the video below, I could talk about freedom for hours- but really what freedom means to me can be distilled to a few sentences:
Never having to make excuses or apologize for who you are or what you do.
When I first heard the phrase “No is a complete sentence” it blew my mind. Growing up in the midwest where being nice and accommodating rules all, it completely rocked my world that I could simply say “No” to something I didn’t want to be a part of. I used to feel obligated to please everyone and go above and beyond to help every single person who I thought needed me. I used to rearrange my entire schedule because someone else suggested a meeting time, or would make up elaborate situations (both real and imaginary) that excused my presence at parties. And if I didn’t do something perfectly, or my way of being made someone uncomfortable, I was the first to apologize and make myself smaller to fit into the world better.
Now, if something isn’t in alignment with what I want to do, who I want to be, or my energy in that moment, I can simply decide to say no. If who I am makes you uncomfortable, then perhaps we simply aren’t a fit- in a conversation, a relationship, or anything. It took a couple years of practice, and it’s still a daily practice to not jump in and make excuses.
This aspect of freedom is taking a powerful stand in who you are and what you are about. It’s owning your values and your commitments to yourself above all else. Powerful “no’s” lead to AMAZING “yes’s”.
No matter your circumstances, you have the power to feel and experience them how you want to.
There is a certain amount of release of control that comes with diving into freedom. In order to truly feel and experience the world the way I want to, I continually have to let go of my urges to try and control and fix and even help other people. Many of us allow our circumstances to dictate how we feel, placing the responsibility of our lives on outside forces. When you take radical responsibility for your life- your thoughts, actions, emotions, and situation- you are finally able to decide what your reality looks like. Choosing this responsibility in each moment is the ultimate freedom.
The ability to physically pick up and go wherever you want to.
This may or may not resonate with you. Whether you have nomadic tendencies or are a confirmed and happy nester, being free allows you to choose those experiences with all of your heart. If you yearn to travel, having the freedom to do so is what will fill you up. When you desire a home and sacred space, you have the freedom to create exactly what you most need. For me the open road calls just as often as a home base. The freedom I’ve created allows me to navigate these seemingly opposing desires and be present in the moment to what I need. And the job freedom I’ve created completely supports both of these desires. This is financial freedom, deep trust in who you are, and a network of support that allows you to move with these whims and cycles in your life.
How does physical environment and experience play into your definition of freedom?
Being joyful and happy and whole wherever you are in any situation.
This goes back to being able to choose how you feel and experience your life. Being free means accepting that no part of you is broken or wrong – all the pieces are simply part of the greater whole that makes up your human experience. Whether you are fully able to roam and satisfy your wanderlust, or you are remaining in one place for awhile, the ultimate freedom is making that decision consciously and joyfully.
You create your reality. Wherever you are, you get to decide who you are and how you feel. There is nothing more important than standing for yourself and your freedom.
What does freedom mean to you? Why is that so important? What one thing can you do today to bring you a little closer?
Over the next week, I’m releasing a free video series called ‘Claim Your Freedom’ – steps for moving beyond what’s stopping you, surprising places that may be holding you back from feeling free, and actions you can take now to step up and have freedom in all areas of your life.
Now that you are clear on how you define freedom and why it is so important to you, I would LOVE to send you those videos!