I’m guessing since you are here that you are an artist and entrepreneur who knows they have so much to offer the world, yet your confidence and trust in yourself tends to yo-yo up and down, and you have a tendency to get stuck in the details, worrying about how to make it all work and not disappoint people.
You are so not alone.
So many of us with grand visions and amazing ideas get stuck when we actually try and execute. Sometimes we flake out even when we WANT to do something or be somewhere, thus confirming the story we’ve made up about being a disappointment and that we aren’t good enough and no one trusts us. Worst ever.
Today’s post is all about the three keys for slammin’ on the brakes of self-doubt and becoming the go-to gal (or guy) for getting shit done and being known as someone who is dependable, trustworthy, and awesome.
The Three Keys to Being Awesome
Day 17 of the Blog Challenge asks, “What three steps can you take to build trust and credibility online for you, your brand, and your business?”
My answer is relevant for my business, and it is also universally relevant for taking action every day and feeling awesome and ready to play. (Yep, that rhymed.) SO, without further ado:
Key #1: Clarity: Know What The Eff You Are About
I will say this over and over and over again. Be Super Clear on who you are, who you serve, and how you provide value. If you don’t have solid ground to stand on of course you are going to doubt yourself and your abilities. The clearer you are in your mission and why you do what you do, the easier it will be to continue taking action that will move you forward, and the less likely you will be to give in to resistance.
For me: I have pretty awesome clarity. I help artists and entrepreneurs get creatively unstuck by helping them become strong and healthy so they can worry less and play more- in business, art, and life. I let this inform everything I do within my brand, always asking- how is this helping my people?
Things I want to get better at are: Providing more resources that actually do what I am trying to do. Start making videos, give away content, and really hone in on my messaging through creating tools that will be helpful to my people.
Next time you are doubting, ask yourself this: What one step can I take to better understand how to help my peeps?
Key #2: Consistency: Walk Your Freaking Talk.
No one likes the person who says they are going to do something and then doesn’t do it. I’ve also been that person- it sucks to be the flake and no one feels good about it. Don’t be that person.
Consistent action is the most proven way to get to where you want to go. The GPS can’t tell you what to do next if you never leave the driveway! Also, the more consistent we are in our messaging, our services, our way of being, the clearer and easier it will be to make decisions and take the next steps. By being consistent, you are building trust both within yourself and with your clients.
For me: This means moving my body every day. It means eating foods that will fuel and energize me. Writing every day, sending out weekly emails/posts, and never wavering in my messaging. Waking up and consciously thinking about how awesome my life is and how grateful I am for it. Actually doing what I say I’m going to do when I say I’m going to do it.
Things I want to get better at are: Taking breaks to get up and move around every 30 minutes. Being more of a presence on social media. Following up with emails and clients within 48 hours. Getting more work done earlier in the day. Setting my 3 tasks (no more!) every day and doing them without fail.
Next time you’ve been sucked into the self-doubt and/or social media vortex, ask yourself this: What makes me feel better? How quickly can I do that thing? (Then go do it, duh!)
Key #3: Community: Don’t Be A Hero.
Ever said yes to everything because you like to feel needed? Or you have trust issues and aren’t sure someone else can do something as well as you can?
Guess what? Trying to play the hero is a ridiculous time and energy suck.
When you have too many demands or are trying to do it all yourself, you get depleted. Period.
Ask for the support of your community. Don’t have one? Start seeking out like-minded awesome people who will SUPPORT you and help you out where needed. Not because they want something from you, but because they love you and want to see you THRIVE.
Quit trying to save the day and instead create a life and support system that understands when you say no and allows you to be you.
For me: I used to try and do everything. At one point I had 12 different jobs and contracts. Yes, 12. It was awful. Building up my community means offering help and support only once I’m already full. It means asking for help and always being grateful. It means pimping other people doing awesome things because that’s what a community is all about!
Things I want to get better at are: Leveraging connections and supporting other artists and entrepreneurs. Getting myself more exposure through guest blogging, social media interaction, and connecting with other entrepreneurs who serve a similar group of people so I can help them too!
Next time you are trying to be a hero, ask yourself: Who can I reach out to? What tasks can I delegate?
Each of these Keys alone is pretty powerful. And when you use them together? BAM. Shortcuts unlocked and treasure found.
Know you don’t have to be perfect all the time. God, please don’t try and be perfect all the time.