We’ve all had those times in our lives.
For awhile, everything is going great! You’re kicking major butt with your daily movement, on fire with your work and mission, creating major opportunities to play and move forward, and you don’t know for sure but you’re pretty positive the sun was shining more brightly than usual, and all that light was directed at you, baby.
Something shifts- sometimes it’s an obvious thing, and sometimes it’s gradual, but you wake up one day and you just don’t feel as motivated anymore. Where did your zest and excitement go? Maybe you skipped a workout or two. You’re staying up a little later than usual, sleeping a little more, watching a little more TV… There’s a vague pain in your neck and you don’t know how it got there, you have a constant dull headache, and how many days in a row has it been raining?
Whether it’s a big, sudden thing, or something that occurs over time, at some point in all of our lives we feel disconnected and out of sorts. Totally un-excited, just going through the motions or completely motion-less, stuck and feeling totally grey and blah…
Forget about finding time to play- what happens when you don’t even feel ALIVE?
Trust me, I’ve been there. Burnout, depression, anxiety, feeling ‘off’ – the majority of us experience these things on varying levels at different points in our lives.
Everyone is different, and everyone has different ways of restoring their connection to themselves and to their fire. Sometimes we need reminders, and sometimes we don’t know what to do. Not to fear!
Here’s a list of 7 things you can do IMMEDIATELY to feel more ALIVE:
1. Belly breathing.
When’s the last time you took a deep breath? Really let it fill up your whole body?
Yeah, let’s make that happen. Most of us breath only into our chests.
Breath is what moves energy throughout our body, and when we only breath into the upper cavity of our torso, we are cutting off that energy from a lot of our bodies!
1. Take a second to get centered- either sit or stand up tall, both feet evenly placed on the floor or sitting legs crossed.
2. Place your hands on your belly, and close your eyes.
3. Completely relax your belly (yes all the way).
4. Empty all the air out of your body.
5. Deeply inhale through your nose, expanding your belly, low back, and rib cage. Fill up your entire torso with air.
6. Exhaling audibly through the mouth, relax your shoulders away from your ears, soften your face.
Do this 10 times, breathing in and out more deeply and slowly each time.
This will relax and energize you. From this space, ask yourself what is the most important thing you can do next. Then, go do that.
2. Joint mobility.
On a macro level, keeping (or getting to) a full range of motion is super important for the health and vitality of your body.
On a micro level, doing movements to juice up your joints will help get blood flowing and carry away toxins and other stagnant yucky stuff, allowing your immune system to do awesome things like cure up that acne and stuffy nose you’ve acquired since you got the blahs.
There are a ton of different ways to gain mobility in your joints. This article points to a lot of different resources.
And if that’s too much to read right now, do a few ankle and wrist rolls, shake your head yes and no, arm circle it up, and gyrate your hips a few times. That’s called progress!
3. Pump up that heart rate.
Seriously. Feeling yuck?
TOO TIRED to do anything but watch reruns of WB dramas on Netflix?
Cut it out.
Challenge: Shock your system by getting your heart rate GOING. It doesn’t have to be for long.
I DON’T WANT TO HEAR YOUR EXCUSES.
Go do it, then you can come back and complain about it.
4. Complain. (Then LET IT GO)
Complaining is totally valid.
When you are feeling overwhelmed, angry, depressed, mistreated, anxious, frustrated, misunderstood, it can be really tempting to brush it off, or to feel some sort of pressure to immediately find the lesson or the good in the situation. Hello, been there!
Whatever it is? GET IT OFF YOUR CHEST.
Journal, talk to a friend, talk to your dog, record a voice memo, scream in the shower, whatever. Get it ALL out.
Feel your feelings and all that.
Somewhere down the line, there will be a lesson, there will be goodness. But right now? Identify how you feel and feel it.
Once you know how you are feeling, and you know how you DON’T want to be feeling, you can identify how you want to feel. But if the yuck feelings remain unexpressed, guess what? They are going to unpack and settle in to your psyche, your body, and your daily mode of being.
Give them the opportunity to be felt, and then firmly decide to be done.
5. Do something really silly.
Like, really silly.
Did you know that the study of laughter is called Gelotology? Other than being a funny word, apparently there are a bunch of studies that show laughter is therapeutic on a cellular level.
Ever heard of laughter yoga? Check it. A bunch of crazies who are totally on to something scientifically. AMAZING!
So do something that is going to make you GIGGLE.
For example, laughing at me singing along to Michelle Branch:
… you’re welcome.
6. Connect to real humans.
Whenever I find myself feeling blah, I have to check in and ask when the last time was I genuinely connected with someone, in person, who I adore and who fills me with joy. Turns out that most of those times, it has been aWHILE. Even if you are around people a lot, yes even people you enjoy, ask yourself if you’ve been able to be you, have done things you actually enjoy, or felt truly dialed in to what was happening around you.
Reach out to someone.
Tell them how you’re feeling. The worst part of feeling completely derailed is that it seems like you’re never going to get back on track.
I don’t care if you tell them all your feels or if you just go out and get really drunk. Do what you gotta do, but do it with somebody else!
7. Ask for help.
Going off of that, if you need help, ask for it.
From your friends, your roommates, your family, your co-workers, your coach, your partner–
Ask them to tell you why you’re awesome, and why you’ve got this.
Ask them to do something fun with you, or to encourage you to get moving
Having someone who both understand where your at and who is going to hold you accountable to getting better is a super duper fast track to feeling connected again. Let ’em in!!
Is this a comprehensive list?
Of course not.
But I guarantee doing at least one of those things is going to jumpstart your energy and fire.
And if you need a little bit of extra motivation, direction, or accountability, check out my Play With Me page- my Come ALIVE! Training might be exactly what you need.